lets set things straight

ok i am pretty sick of ppl not wanting to listen to my explanations. past few days ive made ppl angry, been accused, and NOT been given a chance to explain myself. So i am going to do my best to explain everything in an objective and mature manner to the best that i can ok? *some of these ppl dun read the blog but im going to do it anyway* So let us all be open minded and think about things slowly before just dismissing them as bullshyt ok?

*now some ppl may already be offended because they think i may be saying that they were not open minded in the first place. see wad i mean about how i am unable to explain myself?...*

*btw i am also not explaining to any single individual cos not only 1 person has done these things*

ok first issue to address. i have been accused of saying things without consideration of other ppl's feelings *i can see most ppl nodding*.... to tell u the truth i pretty much agree with that accusation. HOWEVER i would very much like to clear up something. it is one thing to make fun of other ppl until they blow up or to carry a joke too far. However it really pisses me off, when i am stating facts and ppl get angry because of that. And by stating facts i dun mean saying things like "hey ur dad just died"... its more off "hey u were mean just now" then BOOM! angry. the best part is when the person goes into self denial... and than explanations dun matter. COS when u BELIEVE that u do not do it, even if i can point out every single detail of ur action, it wun matter. u have already shut ur mind off to suggestions. So am i still holding ur attention now? or did u already shut ur mind at the word "self denial"? And this brings me to my next point.

yea i know all that about diff phrasing of words can mean diff things and all. but sometimes i just wan to say something u know? and i just cant find a word to use or maybe im just trying to be funny. then u all get all angry and REFUSE to let me explain myself wah this is the most infuriating part. misunderstand and then dun wan to listen to explanation. which is also weird because if u are my fren i would not be purposely saying things to make u angry. then some ppl will say later "That is why u DUN THINK before u tok" yes i know that. That is why i pretty much agree with that. And that is why, when i have caused a misunderstanding i wan to clear it up ASAP. but nope ppl wan to get angry and dun want to tok to me or shut their minds to explanations and saying im insensitive and all. Then sometimes i feel the need to tell u the truth in which u may be unaware of it. but then u hear the first word and oh suddenly all defense mechs are up. can u imagine how a conversation will be like in an occasion like this?

*im just making this up btw*

zqq: " hey u are a pervert"

person: " wah why u scold me that leh *why u scold me fck? camp joke*. its not like i go around raping girls and putting cameras in girls toilet."

zqq: " hey i didnt mean to say that u are a pervert, but im just saying that u keep looking at girls may make u seem like 1"

person: " so wad? i think u are just bias against guys who like to look at girls. ive been looking at girls since i was a baby and no one has complained about it. fck la whatever u want la"

or simply just

person: " fk u la i already say im not, right?" *storms away*

now how do u respond in a situation like this without making things worse?

and please, this is purely made up on the spot im not shooting anyone. This is just a summary because almost all this kind of incidents that happen to me goes something like this.

then another thing ive been accused of is being bias/ judgmental / stubborn, be it towards a product, a person or whatever. ok let me get this straight. there is probably NO ONE in this world who hasnt judged anybody before. to question y someone judges u have to ask ur self what would a person who does not judge be? he.... will be a person with NO opinions whatsoever. in short, a zombie or a robot. *i could prob write an essay on why judging is crucial but i wun now* in fact when ppl say that i am bias because of judging, they are IN FACT making a judgment themself. something along the lines of "zqq is such a bias person". so in the end, they are bias against me being biased.

So how? i used to think that ppl say im stubborn/ bias/ judgmental all these because they were angry and so say it in a fit of anger. however, now im starting to wonder if perhaps that is wad ppl really think of me as because a few have said it to me already. perhaps it is because sometimes i talk too much. but then if that is case wad am i supp to do? definitely whatever i say has to contain my opinion or ideas on smt right? i can't just spew random facts all the time right? or maybe cos ppl feel about something strong, like that he is not a pervert. so as i try to say "hey stop staring at girls" i may come across as strongly opinionated? i dunno.

ok then there is also an issue on how ppl dun like dun say, then dun say get angry. So am i supp to be a mind reader? it also dosent help when ppl like to act angry/ emo or wad then when they are really angry/ upset i cannot tell. come on guys. im not psychic. i would REALLY like to say that those ppl who do these deserve what they are getting but it would not be objective anymore right? haizzz

ok i have pretty much lost all the steam i had when i started this post so im gonna end here. reading tru my entry again i am pretty sure some of readers will be pissed off or something. but then again when i was typing this out i am also reminded of others whom i have have seen to be in the same boat as me, getting misunderstood and all with no chance of explaining. SO if u are still reading this, i IMPLORE to u to read it with an open mind.

Regardless of whether u think im stubborn, arrogant, narcissistic, just plain fcked up, if u are truly a friend TELL ME WHY, either by commenting or whatever. u dun say, i wun know, then dun get angry.